Everywhere I turn these days, people are urging me to worry. "Restaurants are swarming with bacteria!" shouts a local news promo. "We'll tell you what to beware of!" From the computer in my lap, a parenting blog warns, "There's plenty to be anxious about." , take care of your health or you will have _____ or watch out for that spider that pops out of your banana! UGH!
Friends, there are many areas in which I need encouragement, but worrying is not one of them. You may be similarly gifted because worrying comes easily to a certain subpopulation of humans, me being one of them. We're constantly creating new, worry-based strategies for living.
Worrying is worrisome: It's stressful, and as we all know, stress will kill you. So today I'm striking a tiny blow for sanity with my list of nine ways you can stop worrying.
1. Write down exactly what you are worried about, next write down what you can do about it and decide the best course of action and then immediately start to fulfill the course of action you have decided upon.
2. Our thoughts create our reality in which we live so create grand ones. When you wake up in the morning instead of saying "it is going to be a shitty day" say " what a beautiful day and I am going to make the best of it all" This small action will indeed create a beautiful day.
3. Had I balanced my life and work with ways to relax and unwind, with time away from work and simply putting my responsibilities down even if they weren’t done quite yet, I may have saved myself exhaustion that prompted my body to say "Ha that's it" and forcing me to stop. What I have come to realize is that in order to do our best, we must be at our best. Relax, before you need it, and do so regularly. And that means resting our minds (as well as our bodies) regularly to allow them both to recharge.
4. Do best you can and let it go. Perfection is impossible and exhausting, so there will quite possibly never be an instance where everything goes off without a hitch. However, you can control whether or not you bring your best self, performance, and preparation to the table. So long as you know you did your best at any given moment based on the experience and resources you have accumulated, then let the criticisms that come slide off like water on a duck's back.
5. Don’t waste any time or energy on your enemies. At some point in your life, someone will have hurt you or you may have been unjustly wronged, but it is wasted time, energy and chances for potential opportunity to give them any of your thoughts (as they really don't care). Move forward and let the past worry about itself. Stay in the present with practicing Mindfulness To learn more about Mindfulness click here.
6. Expect ingratitude. Accept this and allow it to free you. One of the most fabulous gifts of giving is what the giver unexpectedly feels; however, when you expect something in return and then don’t receive it, you can become agitated subconsciously. That type of agitation is wasted energy that could be used in the next act of kindness. We hold no control over others, we can only control our own thoughts and the actions we take. Never do something to receive something, simply do it and let it go.
7. Do a little something for someone else. It is a way of being productive and focusing your mind on something that needs tending to, (offer to weed their garden, stop by for a cup of tea, etc, etc) why not help someone else out? Perhaps anonymously. Don’t worry about how small the act is, simply choose to do something good. This is totally a blessing in disguise all the way around!
8 “Count your blessings instead of sheep, and you’ll fall asleep counting your blessings” While it is a simple reminder, it is a reminder that by realizing how fortunate we already are, we bring about peace to our mind, calming ourselves down and instilling a state of contentment.
9. This one is very important! Realize that most of the things we worry about never materialize. If we look at the law of averages on a variety of scenarios, the truth is that we worry unnecessarily far too much and it is such a waste of energy. Think of all that could be, imagined, created and enjoyed with the energy spared from worrying so much?
What are the ways that you accept and let go of worry? Let me know in the comments below. I would love to hear about them!
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