Everywhere I turn these days, people are urging me to worry. "Restaurants are swarming with bacteria!" shouts a local news promo. "We'll tell you what to beware of!" From the computer in my lap, a parenting blog warns, "There's plenty to be anxious about." , take care of your health or you will have _____ or watch out for that spider that pops out of your banana! UGH!
Friends, there are many areas in which I need encouragement, but worrying is not one of them. You may be similarly gifted because worrying comes easily to a certain subpopulation of humans, me being one of them. We're constantly creating new, worry-based strategies for living.
Worrying is worrisome: It's stressful, and as we all know, stress will kill you. So today I'm striking a tiny blow for sanity with my list of nine ways you can stop worrying.
1. Write down exactly what you are worried about, next write down what you can do about it and decide the best course of action and then immediately start to fulfill the course of action you have decided upon.
2. Our thoughts create our reality in which we live so create grand ones. When you wake up in the morning instead of saying "it is going to be a shitty day" say " what a beautiful day and I am going to make the best of it all" This small action will indeed create a beautiful day.
3. Had I balanced my life and work with ways to relax and unwind, with time away from work and simply putting my responsibilities down even if they weren’t done quite yet, I may have saved myself exhaustion that prompted my body to say "Ha that's it" and forcing me to stop. What I have come to realize is that in order to do our best, we must be at our best. Relax, before you need it, and do so regularly. And that means resting our minds (as well as our bodies) regularly to allow them both to recharge.
4. Do best you can and let it go. Perfection is impossible and exhausting, so there will quite possibly never be an instance where everything goes off without a hitch. However, you can control whether or not you bring your best self, performance, and preparation to the table. So long as you know you did your best at any given moment based on the experience and resources you have accumulated, then let the criticisms that come slide off like water on a duck's back.
5. Don’t waste any time or energy on your enemies. At some point in your life, someone will have hurt you or you may have been unjustly wronged, but it is wasted time, energy and chances for potential opportunity to give them any of your thoughts (as they really don't care). Move forward and let the past worry about itself. Stay in the present with practicing Mindfulness To learn more about Mindfulness click here.
6. Expect ingratitude. Accept this and allow it to free you. One of the most fabulous gifts of giving is what the giver unexpectedly feels; however, when you expect something in return and then don’t receive it, you can become agitated subconsciously. That type of agitation is wasted energy that could be used in the next act of kindness. We hold no control over others, we can only control our own thoughts and the actions we take. Never do something to receive something, simply do it and let it go.
7. Do a little something for someone else. It is a way of being productive and focusing your mind on something that needs tending to, (offer to weed their garden, stop by for a cup of tea, etc, etc) why not help someone else out? Perhaps anonymously. Don’t worry about how small the act is, simply choose to do something good. This is totally a blessing in disguise all the way around!
8 “Count your blessings instead of sheep, and you’ll fall asleep counting your blessings” While it is a simple reminder, it is a reminder that by realizing how fortunate we already are, we bring about peace to our mind, calming ourselves down and instilling a state of contentment.
9. This one is very important! Realize that most of the things we worry about never materialize. If we look at the law of averages on a variety of scenarios, the truth is that we worry unnecessarily far too much and it is such a waste of energy. Think of all that could be, imagined, created and enjoyed with the energy spared from worrying so much?
What are the ways that you accept and let go of worry? Let me know in the comments below. I would love to hear about them!
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I wouldn't normally just grab off the web to find what to post about but this one is a must! Considering that my entire web page has everything need for your "Pathways to Wellness" I thought that these beautiful places (mother nature is free and healing) were very appropriate. Please enjoy these 15 real magical pathways from one of my favorite sites on the web, The ones I love the most are 2, 13 and 15! Which ones do you enjoy? I would love to know. Write your thoughts on the bottom of this post.
Trees, a beautiful way to reset your stress button!
Physical activity in the form of a 40 minute walk in the forest was associated with improved mood and feelings of health and robustness. Levels of the stress hormone cortisol decreased in test subjects after a walk in the forest, when compared with a control group of subjects who engaged in walks within a laboratory setting.
Trees are a living and breathing energy, helping to keep our air clean, give us shade whenever it is needed and to supply us with fruit to eat and wood to warm.
This vibrational idea is backed up by scientific studies to provide proof that tree hugging has amazing benefits to all of us and it is free! A walk in the park may have psychological benefits for people suffering from depression.
A part in the book "Blinded By Science" author Matthew Silverstone has evidence confirming the healthful benefits of trees includes the effects they have on various issues like depression, concentration levels and even the ability to alleviate headaches. This practice has been going on since ancients times so it's not just a new discovery. You can read more about that here
In this latest study, Dr Berman and his research team explored whether a nature walk would provide similar cognitive benefits, and also improve mood for people with clinical depression. Given that individual with depression are characterized by high levels of rumination and negative thinking, the researchers were skeptical at the outset of the study that solitary walk in the park would provide any benefit at all and may end up worsening memory and exacerbating depressed mood. "Our study showed that participants with clinical depression demonstrated improved memory performance after a walk in nature, compared to a walk in a busy urban environment," said Dr. Berman.
Forest bathing seems to significantly mitigate the root cause of a multitude of ailments. Excess stress can play a role in headaches, high blood pressure, heart problems, diabetes, skin conditions, asthma, and arthritis, among many other ailments. Forest bathing catalyzes increased parasympathetic nervous system activity which prompts rest, conserves energy, and slows down the heart rate while increasing intestinal and gland activity.
"In Japan, people practise "forest bathing" where they spend quiet time absorbing the wisdom of ancient forests, taking long walks among the trees to stimulate their immune system. In Taoism, students are encouraged to meditate among trees, and it is believed that the trees will absorb negative energies, replacing them with healthy ones. Trees are seen as a source of emotional and physical healing, and themselves as meditators, absorbing universal energies."
Trees like all living things have an energy frequency or vibration and an aura. With roots reaching deep into the earth, the have excellent grounding energy. Their vibrations are slower, deeper and more concentrated compared to some other living things. Essentially they give out the energy vibe of safety, security, and stability.
By coming into contact with a tree you will pick up these vibrations whether you are consciously aware of it or not. You begin to resonate with the tree's energy and you become more centered and grounded. This can help explain the comfort many people feel when next to a tree or remember as a children and what fun it was to climb a tree! So go and hug a tree!
A team of researchers with the U.S. Forest Service Looked at data from 1,296 counties, accounted for the influence of other variables - things like income, race, and education - and came to a simple conclusion: Having fewer trees around may be bad for your health. Their findings, published in 2013 in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine, suggest an associative rather than a direct, causal link between the death of trees and the death of humans.
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15 feel good ways to get those muscles moving!
I can personally talk myself out of exercise because I can usually find something else to take its place. Dealing with Fibromyalgia for the last 20 plus years has left my body with little to no muscle tone. Did you know that in 5 seconds if you haven't got up, after making a decision to do something, like put on your running shoes, that the brain takes over and talks you out of it! Only 5 seconds! Enjoy this fabulous video from Mel Robbins that gives you great insight into the "why's" of it all.
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On these pages you will find musings about the necessities for leading a less stressful life It is about being able to enjoy the simplicity that can be yours for the taking. All you need to do is to take the first step! Hi My name is Patricia your Certified Stress Management Coach, and I am thrilled that your are here!